WHY MEN HATE THE IDEA OF GOING TO COUNSELING
(and what to do about it)
Some things I know about most guys are they:
Would rather get a tooth pulled that talk about their feelings
Would rather drive miles out of their way than stop and ask for directions
Want to fix things themselves rather than pay someone for help
Some beliefs lots of guys have about counseling are:
It’s all touchy-feely stuff
You lie on a couch and get analyzed
You will have to revisit your childhood
It costs too much
You don’t have time to go
It’s all just talk, talk, talk
It’s not a “guy thing”
Here’s a short list of some common “guy” challenges:
Marriage problems
Other relationship problems
Difficulty controlling anger
Work and financial stress
Feeling stuck and unhappy
Believing you aren’t good enough
Do you have a “guy” challenge you haven’t been able to solve? Do you need a solution now? Help could start, of all places, in a counselor’s office. Wait! Don’t go yet! I know that is not what you wanted to hear. Keep reading anyway.
First, you need the truth about counseling for guys:
Forget the touchy-feely stuff and expect concrete tools you can use to solve problems
Hardly anybody lies on a couch and gets analyzed anymore
It is useful for a counselor to know your significant childhood experiences, because that information often helps make sense of your circumstances today and gives direction for productive change
The estimated financial, physical health, mental, and emotional costs of not getting the help you need far exceeds the fees for counseling
Everyone sets priorities and makes time to do the things that are most important to you
Sometimes in counseling you need to vent (talk, talk, talk), but after venting you and your counselor need to get to guy solutions that work
What’s in it for you? In one or more of the following, and probably other, areas guys want successful ways to:
Solve problems
Find answers
Hear and be heard accurately
Feel understood
End tension
Stop fighting
Reduce conflict
Control anger
Eliminate the temptations of affairs and sexual addictions
Gain a new perspective
End hopelessness
Feel better
Some of the results of achieving these successes include:
Stopping patterns of behavior that just don’t work
Creating healthy relationships
Avoiding divorce and all the heartache and complications involved
Restoring attraction for your wife or girlfriend
Being a better father
Keeping your job
Achieving satisfaction in your career
Being happy with your life
Like this article, at Lighted Pathways help is designed to be concise and to the point. Services include:
Individual counseling
Marriage and couples counseling
Christian counseling
Education workshops and groups
Don’t wait. Get help now. Get it here. See below for contact information.
(Thanks to guys Dave R. and Dan L. for their review of this article.)
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